On pense à toi, Thomas

Cher Thomas,

Je me souviens très bien du premier jour où tu es arrivé au bureau à Bangkok. Je me rappelle aussi des missions où l’on partait travailler ensemble, des déjeuners au resto bleu, de l’organisation de super vacances, des belles photos que tu m’as appris à faire, des vidéos, des chansons… Merci beaucoup pour tout ce que tu as partagé avec moi… J’ai juste regardé le taxi partir, sous la pluie… et j’ai su que tu étais bien arrivé et où que tu sois arrivé aujourd’hui, j’espère que tu y es heureux…

ด้วยรัก

P.S. j'attends toujours la suite de Desperate Housewives :)

See some momento here

Ending a relationship

• Be honest : you might not want to hurt someone by telling him or her for example that you’ve met someone else, but you’re going to hurt them a whole lot more if you don’t tell them, and they find out later on

• Be brave: Don’t start being really mean to them, hoping that they’ll break up with you and you won’t have to say anything about you feel. Ending a relationship is a skill you need to learn as a part of growing up. Take a deep breath.

• Think long term : You might be tempted just ring up and leave a break up message on their answer phone, or send and email, but shamed will you feel if you bump in to them later? The least you can do is show them the final respect of talking with them in person.

• Choose the right place and time: Try and tell them as soon as you are clear about what you want. Choose a time and place where you both have some privacy to talk about it uninterrupted, not in the middle of shopping mall, or in the queue at Mc Donald.

• Be prepared: While you may have been thinking about this for a while, and have had a chance to process it in your own mind and heart, the other person may not have any idea that the relationship is coming to an end. Understand that may be sad/angry/shocked. Allow them time to say what they want to say too, don’t just tell them and run!

• Be clear: Don’t send mixed messages about maybe getting back together in the future to keep them on the hook, or say if they changed you’d consider going out with them again. Either stays in the relationship and work with the other person to ensure it’s what you both want, or end it, and leave the future to itself. You soon to be ex isn’t there to be a backstop or second choice if things don’t work out with the new person!

• Allow yourself to grieve: You were in the relationship for some reason, at some stage, there was something you wanted or needed that you got out of being in that relationship. It’s important to allow yourself private tome to grieve that is now over and gone. The amount of time needed depends on lots of things, like the length, intensity, and expectations of the relationship. Honest grieving allows for closure, and helps you to fully move on.

• Get support for yourself: Breaking up is hard to do, even when it’s the best thing to happen. You might want to spend some time with a good friend afterwards.

Alien

I often go to Department of employment, Ministry of Labor to extending work permit for my foreigner boss. Here is an official’s document. The official calls the foreigners “The alien” it’s what exactly we say in Thai word “คนต่างด้าว (kon tahng dow)” mean people who comee form another country (or another planet :) )

Let it go….

Grasping is the source of all our problems.

Since impermanence to us spells anguish.

We grasp on to things desperately, even though all things change.

We are terrified of letting go, terrified; in fact, of living at all, since learning to live is learning to let go.

And this is the tragedy and the irony of our struggle to hold on:

Not only is it impossible, but it brings us the very pain

We are seeking to avoid

SOGYAL RINPOCHE

The letter

What can we do to turn our mind

Into a rich, arable land

Suitable for cultivation of seeds for life’s growth?

I believe the best thing is

To sow the seeds of loving and kindness in the mind

(Anger Management, p.112)

Dear all my translators,

How happy I am! Here is my pride I would like to share to all of you. Thank you so much for the translations. Thank you for a good heart you’ve gave for the children. I knew that it’s tired. I’m sure that your tiring will disappear; the smile will be replaced, if you see my picture that I took between my missions in the south of Thailand. With Armelle our volunteer, we’ve meet more than 20 families. Most of them had received the letter from their godparents. I was so curious to know what is on the letter and who had translated it: p I appreciate to work with you all, to be a part of helping the children in our country.

Bon courage na kha

P.S. Do you know? How long it take for one letter to be arrived to the children? France to Thailand = 1 week, 1 week for translation, 1 week for sending to the children. It takes about one month L